The death of my own son Gio, I share - only because there is a comment section here - and I suppose the need to qualify my per view based on experience beckons me. There's nothing in your post that solicits any response. In fact, it can be understood as not inviting any words at all. But I'll be damned if there's not a frequency of pain that holds in the field of the collective - that has no words. It's equal to the frequency of unconditional love and goes to the depths of one's being. For me, the frequencies of task-driven values find intolerance in my belly-of-the-whale waves in grieving. But too, the depths of my love occupy my everything - expanding and touching souls I've never even met. Like your sharing, touches me. Thank you.
Robert - please accept my condolences on the loss of Gio. And thank you for taking the time to read and respond. The amount of insight and truth people share in their comments amazes me.
I don't know if you remember me but we went to school together at LU. I think it's hard for people as we feel empathy for someone in your situation of losing a child but we have no words or actions that are of any value or help. It's a helpless shitty feeling because even though in our instance we only attended a few classes together - I know how much work and love we put into our children and therefore the empathy burden is huge. I read all your posts and all your blogs and today I feel the need to explain that you are far from a leper but more like one of us - a loving parent. Someone that is going through a loss that is so huge we want to reach out or connect or read and follow you because we want to support you in any small way that we can. I hope this maybe shares that the leper analogy although understandable is the furthest thing we as a society are wanting to make you feel. In all reality we are hoping to show strength in numbers - by asking, checking in, reading your thoughts and sending positive notes and energy in your direction.
Lean on people is my advice. Let them help you through this time. Don't feel judged we are not looking to add to your pain but try to lift some burden from you.
If there's anything I can do from Sudbury let me know but I doubt there is. Just know your cheering squad is vast and reaches far and is not a judgemental one but rather a soft place to land when you need it. Spring is coming perhaps the shadows will clear and the transition will help you find the brightness in a dark situation. We're all here cheering you on in this journey we are all participants and support is the only way to survive this path of life.
Thanks again for sharing so vulnerably Jason. In your pain and suffering you are a gift and an inspiration. I don’t understand what you are experiencing but in your sharing you provide valuable perspective. As I sit here in the sun, sooner or later I can expect to enter that shadow that undoubtedly awaits me. When that fearful time comes, I know I have a friend to lean on for support who has walked and continues walking through the shadow with so much courage.
My prayers for healing and peace are always with you and your loved ones 🙏🏼❤️
I read and I will re~read this in my mind …again .
I think the trauma is the shadow is the trauma… is the shadow that life does not kindly tell us exists …
Loss can be fucking horrible and no sentences wrap it up
True.
A new fan of your words.
Shadows we dread from a distance creep up on us ~ no matter the reason.
To you Jason ~ do you ( and keep writing to us) XXoo
Hi Lisa - I will keep writing. You're the best. I admire and respect you.
Love you. Mo
I love you too. Thank you so much for the beautiful gift. I will be in touch soon.
The death of my own son Gio, I share - only because there is a comment section here - and I suppose the need to qualify my per view based on experience beckons me. There's nothing in your post that solicits any response. In fact, it can be understood as not inviting any words at all. But I'll be damned if there's not a frequency of pain that holds in the field of the collective - that has no words. It's equal to the frequency of unconditional love and goes to the depths of one's being. For me, the frequencies of task-driven values find intolerance in my belly-of-the-whale waves in grieving. But too, the depths of my love occupy my everything - expanding and touching souls I've never even met. Like your sharing, touches me. Thank you.
Robert - please accept my condolences on the loss of Gio. And thank you for taking the time to read and respond. The amount of insight and truth people share in their comments amazes me.
I don't know if you remember me but we went to school together at LU. I think it's hard for people as we feel empathy for someone in your situation of losing a child but we have no words or actions that are of any value or help. It's a helpless shitty feeling because even though in our instance we only attended a few classes together - I know how much work and love we put into our children and therefore the empathy burden is huge. I read all your posts and all your blogs and today I feel the need to explain that you are far from a leper but more like one of us - a loving parent. Someone that is going through a loss that is so huge we want to reach out or connect or read and follow you because we want to support you in any small way that we can. I hope this maybe shares that the leper analogy although understandable is the furthest thing we as a society are wanting to make you feel. In all reality we are hoping to show strength in numbers - by asking, checking in, reading your thoughts and sending positive notes and energy in your direction.
Lean on people is my advice. Let them help you through this time. Don't feel judged we are not looking to add to your pain but try to lift some burden from you.
If there's anything I can do from Sudbury let me know but I doubt there is. Just know your cheering squad is vast and reaches far and is not a judgemental one but rather a soft place to land when you need it. Spring is coming perhaps the shadows will clear and the transition will help you find the brightness in a dark situation. We're all here cheering you on in this journey we are all participants and support is the only way to survive this path of life.
I think we actually worked together at Kelsey's :)
Hi Michelle - what's "LU"? I've been racking my brain and I'm sure as soon as you remind me it'll be obvious :)
Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to post such a thoughtful comment!
Thanks again for sharing so vulnerably Jason. In your pain and suffering you are a gift and an inspiration. I don’t understand what you are experiencing but in your sharing you provide valuable perspective. As I sit here in the sun, sooner or later I can expect to enter that shadow that undoubtedly awaits me. When that fearful time comes, I know I have a friend to lean on for support who has walked and continues walking through the shadow with so much courage.
My prayers for healing and peace are always with you and your loved ones 🙏🏼❤️
Thank for reading and being my friend brother